My top ideas about parenting

I have gathered a diverse range of insights and principles on parenting from various sources, including books, articles, and personal values. Here are some key points from my notes:

1. Communication with Children: From "How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen" by Joanna Faber and Julie King, I've highlighted the importance of how we talk to children, as it becomes their inner voice. I've noted the significance of acknowledging children's feelings and avoiding the use of "but" to dismiss those feelings.

2. Emotional Regulation: Joanna Fortune's "15-Minute Parenting 0-7 Years" emphasizes the necessity for children to learn how to self-regulate their emotions, which is crucial for their development into healthy adults. The book also discusses the importance of play in early life as children's work and the value of teaching children to repair relationships after conflicts.

3. Montessori Approach: I've expressed interest in montessori parenting, which includes principles like freedom within limits and not disturbing a child's concentration. I've also noted ideas for arranging a baby space that encourages independence and learning from natural consequences.

4. Parental Growth: From a tweet by David Morris, I've gathered that strong parents focus on their own growth and maturity, recognizing that it enables their children's development. The tweet also suggests that strong parents have strong relationships and think long term about the impact of their actions on their children.

5. Parental Influence: "The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read" by Philippa Perry suggests that children can remind parents of their own childhood emotions, and how parents talk about the other parent can significantly affect the child's self-perception.

6. Personal Values: My personal values include setting clear expectations, being kind, making the right thing the easy thing, showing up consistently, finding joy in learning, and being a positive influence on others.

7. Content from Articles: I've noted the importance of consistency over perfection in habit formation, as seen in Jason Lengstorf's advice on content creation, which can be applied to parenting practices as well.

8. Indistractable Parenting: From "Indistractable" by Nir Eyal, I've learned about the importance of managing internal triggers and discomfort to avoid distractions, which can be relevant to maintaining focus and presence as a parent.

I want to take a thoughtful and informed approach to parenting, with an emphasis on emotional intelligence, personal development, and creating a supportive and nurturing environment for children.